Do I fear the disapproval or disagreement of others, avoiding conflict and staying silent when I’d rather speak up?
Do I find it difficult to identify my own needs and receive help from others, preferring to give instead?
Do I find it hard to set boundaries and say no, and instead find myself automatically complying with others requests?
Do I believe I am responsible for other people’s feelings, and go out of my way to make sure they are happy, even at my own expense?
Do I feel ashamed of these patterns of behaviour and wish that I could change them but I just don’t know how?
If you answered yes to these questions then you are in the right place! RAASE UP was created specifically for you.
The characteristics listed above were likely all once part of a clever survival strategy. They are in fact all hallmarks of a submissive defense response to perceived threat, also known as the fawn response.
Underlying a people pleasing pattern is residual biological fear, usually from early life.
This fear remains undischarged in the mind-body system long after the original threat is gone, wreaking havoc on our thoughts, emotions and all bodily systems.
To be free, we need to discharge this (often now unconscious) fear on the level of the nervous system.
We also need to repair the damage done to our attachment system so that we can feel safe to be authentic and assertive in relationships.
To learn more, download my free guide, where I go into this in more depth.