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How your healing journey is like an ice thaw

Each year up in the Northern latitudes of the Northern hemisphere, spring thaw happens. This is an uncertain and often dangerous time. When everything is thick ice and snow, it is more solid and can be trusted, even if it freezing, you can prepare for the conditions.  And in summer, all the ice and snow…

Self-sabotage and the illusion of choice

Have you ever had a clear intention or set a goal but no matter how hard you tried, you actually ended up doing the exact opposite? Or felt really bad for something you did or didn’t do, beating yourself up for not ‘choosing’ to act differently? The term self-sabotage implies that you had a choice…

How to trauma-proof your kids

Let’s face it, not many of us get through childhood emotionally and physically unscathed. Whether it’s falling out of a tree and breaking an arm or being bullied at school, life is full of experiences that could be potentially traumatising. But what makes the difference between temporary pain and upset and something scarring us and…

Saying Yes when you’d rather say No? Here’s what to do

“The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say no to almost everything.” – Warren Buffett Do you ever find yourself saying yes to the things you’d rather say no to and no to the things you’d rather say yes to?! And do you find this ends up causing…

Feeling unmotivated or apathetic? Here’s what to do

Feeling unmotivated or apathetic does not mean that you need a kick up the butt because you’re being lazy.  And it does not necessarily mean you’ve simply got a case of the winter blues. Feeling unmotivated and apathetic are two of several red flags that can indicate the body is in a freeze response. If…

Love eluding you? Here’s what to do

Does enjoying and sharing deep intimacy and love ever seem just out of reach?  Have you ever been someone who has been “looking for love in all the wrong places”? That used to be the story of my life. I see clients regularly who come to me disheartened and disillusioned because they deeply desire to…

“Perfectionist” – Nature or Nurture? Neither!

I always thought my perfectionist tendencies were just part of my personality and not something I could do a lot about – turns out, I was wrong. When I started my training, it was transformative, and not a little unsettling, to realise that many of my character qualities and personality traits were not in fact…

Stuck? Procrastinating? To resolve, go deeper

I had an incredibly productive burst of creativity with my business that lasted about 6 weeks recently.  I was super motivated and clear about my direction and what needed to be done. And then all of a sudden it stopped, and I couldn’t figure out why.  Man, I hate that! And yeah, I know all…

Feel, allow, integrate and re-member yourself

“No matter how you feel, you deserve more love, not less. When love is not a feeling to chase or hold in place, but the compassionate support that befriends each emotion and embraces how you feel, you are able to find the companionship you desire without abandoning yourself in the process. This is how acceptance…

Anxiety – yoga or meditation won’t fix it but this will

So have you tried it?  Yoga or meditation to fix your anxiety.  And if you did, did it work?  Did it work any better or last any longer than alcohol or sex or cake?   Let me back up a step here and clarify.  When I talk about anxiety in this context I’m not talking…