I help people set boundaries, quit people pleasing and transform a submissive defense pattern into Assertive & Authentic Self-Expression.
Do you fear the disapproval or disagreement of others, avoiding conflict and staying silent when you’d rather speak up?
Do you find it difficult to identify your own needs and receive help from others, preferring to give instead?
Do you find it hard to set boundaries and say no, and instead find yourself automatically complying with others requests?
Do you believe you are responsible for other people’s feelings, and go out of your way to make sure they are happy, even at your own expense?
Do you feel ashamed of these patterns of behaviour and wish that you could change them but you just don’t know how?
Well don’t be ashamed, these characteristics were likely all once part of a clever survival strategy. They are in fact all hallmarks of a submissive defensive response to perceived threat.
Underlying a people pleasing pattern is residual biological fear.
This fear remains undischarged in the mind-body system long after the original threat is gone, wreaking havoc on our thoughts, emotions and all bodily systems.
To be free we need to discharge this (often now unconscious) fear on the level of the nervous system.
We also need to repair the damage done to our attachment system so that we can feel safe to be authentic in relationships.
“Sessions with Jo were life changing! I feel 100 times stronger in myself. It was so healing on a whole other level”. – K McNeilly
How I work
I draw on a combination of body-oriented, trauma informed therapy, and counselling training, intuition and my own healing journey to facilitate successful, positive outcomes for my clients.
I have completed a 3 year post-graduate programme with the Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute of Australia to qualify as a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner under the lineage of Peter Levine. I also have a degree in Psychology with first class Honours, I’ve studied to Masters level in Counselling and I’ve been personally mentored by David Riddell, the founder of the Living Wisdom School of Counselling.
More on Somatic Experiencing
Somatic Experiencing® is a body-oriented approach to the healing of trauma and other stress disorders. It offers a framework to assess where a person is “stuck” in the fight, flight or freeze responses and provides clinical tools to resolve these fixated physiological states.
The SE approach facilitates the completion of self-protective motor responses and the release of thwarted survival energy bound in the body, thus addressing the root cause of trauma symptoms. This is approached by gently guiding clients to develop increasing tolerance for difficult bodily sensations and suppressed emotions.
Trauma may begin as acute stress from a perceived life-threat or as the end product of cumulative stress. Both types of stress can seriously impair a person’s ability to function with resilience and ease.
So if you find yourself over-committed, over-responsible and OVER pleasing others, and you want to feel safe to be YOURSELF, put an end to self-sabotage and finally realise the success and love you fully deserve, then you are in the right place.